Dear Lady. Ann:
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. Our marriage has had its tough time and we are currently in therapy because of an affair my husband had two years ago. My husband and I have always been open and transparent with each other. We talk about any and everything. So, I knew when the affair began and called him out on it. Since we have been going for counselling, he has continued to be open to me.
My side of the family recently had an event and we were all meant to meet my brother’s new girlfriend. My husband and I were at the event together when my brother brought his new girl and introduced her to us. I noticed my husband became very uncomfortable and when I asked what was wrong, he whispered that that was the girl he had an affair with. I was shocked to see that it was the same woman my husband had an affair with two years back that had now become my brother’s new girl.
This affair has affected my marriage so much, nothing has been the same ever since. I stayed because I was willing to work on our marriage as long as he was willing to end the affair. He ended it, but seeing her just brought back all kinds of emotions for me. I told my brother right there about the affair and he did not seem to care. He said she was his girlfriend now, and I would have to come around. The rest of my family think it’s disrespectful for him to still keep seeing her despite what had happened, but he does not seem to care. How can I deal with this? My family has always been very united, I would hate to be the reason why we tear apart, but I can’t get over it. Please, help.
-Hurt Wife
#DLATribe, should her brother break up with his new girl because of her past?