Dear Lady. Ann:
I am in my late 30s and I have been single for too long. I want someone who will be as committed as I am, but every guy I meet is just looking for a fling. A year ago, I met someone who liked the same things I did, we had chemistry. As perfect as he was for me, he was just too involved with his job. Whenever we went out on a date, it would all go well, but I would not hear from him for another month. He got a job offer a plane ride away and we stopped talking afterward. I still thought about him a few times, but I was too reluctant to reach out because I did not want to look desperate.
A few months ago, I had to attend a friend’s wedding in the state where he is, and he coincidentally reached out to me a week before my trip. I told him I would be in town that week and we decided to meet up. When we met, it was as pleasant as always and we ended up having sex afterwards; the sex was also as amazing as always. We agreed to keep in touch more often and I travelled back home. My job sent me on a business trip recently and it happened to be where he lives. I reached out to him this time and he sounded excited to see me; we even spoke about having sex.
We eventually met when I travelled, but the day went differently than I expected. First of all, he took me to some charity event that lasted for hours. Then after wasting so many hours there, he dropped me at my hotel saying he was really tired from the night before – “from having sex.” I can’t describe how I felt in that moment. Why did he have to share that detail with me? Our previous chats involved us spending time together and having sex, and that was fine with me; so why the change of plans? I feel so upset and I don’t know how to go about it. Should I ask him what that was all about? Should I ask him what he really wants with us – if there’s an “us” at all? I don’t know what to do Lady. Ann.
-Feeling Played
#DLATribe, should she ask him if this is a thing? Or should she walk away?