Dear Lady. Ann:
Me and my boyfriend started dating about a year ago, it was long distance relationship when we started and we always chatted on the phone through texts and calls. He was everything I ever wished for, he called in the morning to wake me up, we chatted through the day and we made time for each other no matter how busy we were. Towards the end of last year he introduced me to his siblings and we decided that since I wasn’t doing anything back at home as I was waiting for my school results I should come visit him for a while. I knew it was somehow not the best decision but it had been 11 months since we started dating and we hardly saw each other, so why not just visit for a while.
We made rules that we were not going to sleep in the same room and not do anything that would harm our relationship spiritually, but the thing is ever since I came here he hardly makes time for me. He is always busy on his phone chatting with some other people(not other women though), he’s busy with ‘work’, busy napping or watching TV on his free time. I feel like he doesn’t give me enough attention the same way he did when I was back at home, it is even hard to start a conversation with him because he never makes effort to hold a conversation when we’re sitting together. He would rather just concentrate on the TV or just be quiet or he would be busy listening to the sermons on his phone or be in Bible study with his friend on a call. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I do not like the fact that he is focused on his spiritual life and relationship with God, only if he would make time for me like he does with other things then I would be a happy lady. I do not know where I’m going with this but I feel as if our relationship is the least of his priorities right now and it hurts. We pray separately as he never invites me to pray with him 💔. I love him and I wish for a future with him but I feel we should take a break and get back together when he’s ready for a serious relationship