Dear Lady. Ann:
My boyfriend proposed to me 8 months ago and it was the happiest day of my life. We have been dating for 4 years and it was just the perfect time. We have both met each other’s family and his family has been nothing but sweet to me. He had my family, friends, his family and friends plan a surprise proposal for me and that meant so much to me. I have spent the past 8 months planning my dream wedding, and since his sister and I are close, I wanted to involve her into our wedding plans.
So, I asked her to go wedding gown shopping with my sister and I and she sounded pretty excited. When I started trying out dresses, I noticed she always had one stupid comment to make about how I looked in the dresses. According to her, I was always too thick in the wrong places. She even tried some dresses I had tried to prove to me that the dress wasn’t the best fit for me. Each time she made a silly remark about my looks, my sister kept insisting I looked just great. I was so pissed that I decided to end the shopping date. I told my fiancé and he initially downplayed it.
I didn’t want to seem like an obsessive bride, so I kept it moving. But I noticed she kept making comments about every decision I made regarding the wedding. She never makes these statements when my fiancé (her brother) is there, just when we are alone. I have thought about recording her to prove to my fiancé that I am not exaggerating but I have never been able to do so. She is older than my fiancé and still single. I think she is terribly jealous that I am living a life she wishes she had, but I can’t allow her bitterness to ruin my day like she has been doing. I need to know how to tell her to back off. I also want to remove her from my bridesmaid list, but I have not told my fiancé yet. What do I do?
-Frustrated Soon-To-Be-Bride
#DLATribe, what’s the best way to tell her off?